and if you live in California, I implore you to vote NO on 8!! Gays and Lesbians marrying will do NOTHING to my heterosexual marriage. It just means more love being shared with all the rights and privileges of marriage. You know, like, if one member of the couple is in the hospital, the partner is allowed to be there with her (or him). Or being able to file joint tax returns. This is something that is near and dear to my heart and I am struggling to understand how it is that other hetero married couples think that homosexual marriages will destroy their own marriages. I just don't get it. Love makes the world go 'round. No one should be excluded from it.